The most powerful crystals for self-love

Do you struggle to forgive or accept yourself, perhaps you put others’ needs above your own? You might be lacking a bit of self-love. Self-love is about honouring your true essence and having a healthy relationship with yourself via your thoughts, words and actions. It means having boundaries, knowing your self-worth, and making healthy choices for your own well-being. 

So why is self-love so important? Loving yourself creates a cascade of positive benefits and is like a magnet for attracting positive things into your life. When we love ourselves, it lifts our own vibrations and sets the tone for all other relationships in our life. It reinforces self-confidence, encourages self-respect and helps us establish healthy boundaries with others. Nurturing the relationship with yourself will also strengthen the relationships you have with others and put you in the right mindset to attract the right kind or love or relationships in your life. 

All crystals have their own innate positive vibration and when we work with them, they share their loving energy to us. These five crystals are especially helpful for reinforcing self-love:


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A stone of inner strength, balance and restoration, rhodonite teaches us to be kinder to ourselves and asks us to release destructive patterns or self-sabotaging behaviour that diminish our self-worth. This heart and root chakra crystal reinforces self-confidence and encourages emotional independence making it a good companion during heartbreak, breakups or any kind of emotional pain.

Rhodonite keeps you grounded and comforted during emotionally turbulent times and calls you to forgive, heal and move on with an open heart. It lifts away feelings of guilt and shame – especially around love and sex. Rhodonite is also known to awaken inner talents and ignite the confidence to share your unique gifts. Meditate with rhodonite in your hand or hold it to your heart chakra when you want to release heavy emotions. 

Rose Quartz

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The classic love crystal, rose quartz is one of best stones to invite love of all kinds into one’s life. It opens the hearts to new levels of kindness, patience, compassion and forgiveness towards others and most importantly, towards ourselves. Rose quartz has a vibration that anyone can tune into and its gentle yet nurturing energy make it ideal for parents wanting to strengthen the love and bond between parent and child.

Rose quartz is one of the best stones to work through blockages around self-worth and emotional confidence – it will remind you of your beauty and that you are truly worthy and deserving of love. Try adding rose quartz to your bath or place next to your skincare products to amplify their energetic beautifying properties.

Green Aventurine

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Green aventurine is a stone of growth, self-development and heart healing. Believed to spark new beginnings and attract luck into one’s life by activating an abundant mindset and positive outlook. When you are feeling positive and grateful you are in the right frame of mind to attract and receive positive things. Green aventurine opens the heart and prepares you for those exciting new loves or friendships.

This stone also aids with emotional release and diminishes energetic blocks at the heartspace making it a great ally for emotional healing and moving on from past hurts. Use green aventurine when you want to attract a new relationships or friendships – it will help you call in the right energetic tribe.   


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Amazonite is a stone of courage, flow and inspiration – it inspires truth-telling, honour, integrity and openness. This throat chakra activating stone improves self-expression and facilitates open and honest communication from the heart – especially communication concerning love. This calming and soothing stone dissolves sadness and leads you away from the destructive behaviour that surface from experiencing hurt or disappointment.

Amazonite’s empowering energy boosts self-esteem and helps you to let go of fears and anxieties, especially around love and relationships. This is a great stone to promote harmony, tolerance and patience as it encourages one to be more understanding and open to other perspectives. Work with amazonite when you want to build emotional strength and release self-destructive patterns. 


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Malachite is a powerful protection stone that stimulates action, willpower and transformation. This heart chakra crystal supports flexibility, responsibility, commitment and forgiveness. Malachite is a no-nonsense stone that’s wants you to get honest with yourself and face the truth, even if it’s not pretty. It brings awareness to negative patterns or conditioning that you keep repeating and it wants you to face those demons and learn the lesson.

If you struggle with self-worth, willpower or commitment malachite’s heart chakra activating energies will increase your sense of self-worth and respect for yourself. Malachite is also an extremely protective stone that deflects negativity and protects you from taking on other people’s stress or anxieties which can drain your energy.  Carry malachite with you when you want to shield your energy from negative emotions or thoughts projected by others.

Disclaimer: Crystals and crystal healing are meant only to complement other therapies and support our overall well-being. Crystals should not be used as a substitute or replacement for professional medical treatment. For medical advice, please consult a licensed health care professional.

Vanessa Hui is a Certified Crystal Healing Practitioner and founder of Hong Kong-based The Crystal Van. Follow them on Instagram @thecrystalvan

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